Go where you’re wanted. Stop trying to fit as a square peg in a round hole, feeling like an outsider in the process. Feeling rejected by friends, employers, colleagues or romantic partners. Chasing people who clearly don’t have any interest.
You can have an entire relationship—all in your head—based on text. It’s not real. Don’t put any stock into text-based relationships. That road leads to nowhere good. It’s about face time in real life.
Regarding friendships, the pandemic has made clear that people tend to fit into two main categories: those who contacted you or responded when you contacted them, and those who didn’t. Regarding the latter, yes, we know there’s been a tremendous and unprecedented number of truly terrible things going on during this pandemic, however--with very few exceptions--no one is busy for over two years straight with no breaks to at least shoot off a text message. If someone doesn’t respond at all to your outreach attempts in over TWO YEARS and during a major global crisis, then they’ve flagged themselves as someone to wish well and let go of gracefully. If they choose to return in the future, that’s up to them, and you can reevaluate from there.
Then there’s job situations. Chasing after jobs with employers who express lukewarm interest in you at best. Stop it. Release them and move toward those who enthusiastically want to work with you, whenever possible. Gracefully let the others go.
Find a supportive community or several. Go where you’re wanted, not where you’re tolerated. You don’t have to prove yourself, prove you’re worthy, to anyone. Especially not to those who are uninterested. Attract what and who you want, repel what and who you don’t, and above all do not chase. Take action, then release it, let it go from there.